Wednesdays for Wives: Pretty from the Inside Out

wednesdaysfinal.jpg“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful.” 1 Peter 3:3-4

As women we take great time and care with our outward appearance. We spend hours each week on our hair and make-up. We pluck and shave away unwanted hair. We study our figure in the mirror carefully, “Is my rear-end really that big?!” We look for signs of aging, “Is that a gray hair? When did I get that wrinkle in my forehead?” We love to shop for clothes and carefully select flattering pieces.

There’s nothing wrong with taking care of yourself and looking your best. In fact I’m willing to bet your husband appreciates it. But let’s face it. There are days when it just doesn’t all come together. The alarm goes off late, there’s an early meeting at work and you don’t have time to deal your bad hair day before running out the door. Or the kids are all sick with the flu and you’re lucky to get out of your PJs, let alone take a shower.

Well, thank goodness for Peter! We can be inwardly beautiful no matter how out of place our hair is if we have the “unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit.” This is a trait God values greatly in a women and your husband will also. Most of us probably weren’t born with a gentle and quiet spirit. I certainly wasn’t. But I do recognize the importance of it, and I’m working on it. God’s working on me too.

I know this verse is a little scary. The thought of having to keep my big mouth shut all the time tugs at my very core. Women are verbal creatures. We just need to talk sometimes. Is this verse telling us to just shut up or is there more to it than that? From the original Greek, gentle is better translated as meek. Webster’s dictionary defines meek as, “enduring injury (hurt) with patience and without resentment.” We should have an attitude of patience and forgiveness, even when people or circumstances cause us pain. Quiet is defined as, “marked by little or no motion or activity, calm.” Instead of fretting and trying to take matters into our own hands, we should trust God to take care of us.

You can relax now! You are still allowed to speak. Choose your thoughts and words carefully. Say them with the right attitude and keep your eyes on God. If you actively seek God and strive to live according to his principles he’s laid out in the Bible I believe that he will give you an attitude of meekness. He will also quiet your spirit with the knowledge that all is in his hands.

Show your gentle and quiet spirit to your husband, and he’ll find you lovely even if your still wearing yesterdays sweats that are covered in baby spit up, and you haven’t shaved your legs since shorts went out of season.


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