Wednesdays for Wives: The Grass is Always Greener until You have to Mow it

“A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.” Proverbs 14:30

“Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife.” Psalm 17:1

There’s one in every neighborhood. The perfectly manicured lawn. Neat diagonal stripes run the length of the grass. There are no dandelions in site. No evidence of moles. Lush and green, every time you drive by you long to run across it barefoot. And you wish enviously that your own weedy, brown lawn looked like that.

But if you are like me you’re not willing to pay the price to get a front yard like that. The only way to achieve such lovely grass is either through hours of back-breaking work or a hefty investment in a lawn service. I’d rather just keep my shriveled-up crab grass, and spend my summers lounging in the pool and my money on more important things, like filling up my gas tank.

Other people’s lives can be like that neighbors’ impeccable greenery. At a glance it looks wonderful. Take a longer look and you might find that you wouldn’t want to pay the price to have their life.

How many times have I envied another woman only to find out her life wasn’t as great at it appeared to be on the surface? There was the friend whose husband had a great job that provided a big house and expensive car, but it turned out he wasn’t such a great guy. There was the single friend whose life seemed free and exciting, but she felt lonely every night when she went home to an empty house.

Envy is something women are particularly prone to. Especially envying the lifestyle of another woman who we perceive as having it better than us. If we’re not careful our jealousies can lead to discontent and even bitterness. Always wanting what someone else has instead of being content with the life God gave you will make you miserable.

The lesson I’ve learned over the years is that often I waste time being envious of someone who in the end isn’t any better off than I am. We all have struggles, no matter how good things may appear to be.

The next time you feel that Green Monster rear its ugly head inside of you, stop and think. Dig a little deeper. Find out what that other woman went through to get to where she is, what she might be dealing with now. Then consider your own life. Do you really want to trade places? 

What if you moved into that house with the nice green grass and had to spend all your time mowing, spreading Weed and Feed and watering? I’d probably be longing for my clumpy, weedy front yard that stops growing in July when it gets hot and dry.  I know eventually that lush grass would be just as dead at the grass in my old yard.

Remember, the grass is always greener until you have to mow it!


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3 Responses to “Wednesdays for Wives: The Grass is Always Greener until You have to Mow it”

  1. misty Says:

    This was a GREAT post… As I am liking my lawn less than I hoped, once spring sprung- i needed to be put in check. BUT, as a woman, I also needed to be reminded about Envy…

  2. d Says:

    Well said, thanks for sharing that.

  3. realworldmartha Says:

    Terrific post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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